At the origin

36-year-old man¹ with a composed nature. I live in the north-east of France, in Metz, Moselle. If curiosity and altruism are fairly common values, they are essential to me. I have always enjoyed questioning and understanding my surroundings, as well as helping others whenever possible. I also became interested in sexuality at an early age; Everywhere in our lives in various forms, and sometimes sadly condemned, especially for women. In my infinite questioning, it is also where I became interested in feminism, another of my strong values, and which is undoubtedly what has the greatest connection with the services I wish to offer here.

Before I discovered the existence of the term "sex-positive", I was already embracing what can be found around it, depending on how you define it. The pro-sex aspect is at its heart, and as I have already said, the notions of respect and consent are crucial. Respect for others, for their sexual orientations, for their (non) desires, and so on.

Why did I become a sex worker

Escort, gigolo, man whore or prostitute, whatever you want to call this old profession, in my case, it is above all a source of pride. The very fact that "whore" is an insult speaks volumes about the way women are treated in our society. Even if its french etymology did not bode well, it is a word that has no masculine equivalent. I can also cite "bitch", which has also no masculine equivalent. Or the term "easy girl", which I strongly dislike for all the control it puts over women. Here too, you will never see "easy man", except perhaps in the title of a movie.

Sexual freedom is fundamental, and the whole humanity should be able to enjoy it without judgment or shame, not just half. That is why I mentioned challenging social norms at my level. By working in a profession that is still very gendered, with the hope of changing attitudes around it a little. Whether it is the view of prostitution itself or that of people who have casual sex, paid or unpaid. I say people, but I think that from what I have already said, you understand who are, unfairly, the most targeted.

I mentioned altruism earlier, and that is also how I view this activity. Giving of oneself; giving you pleasure, helping you heal any wounds that trauma may have left you with; erasing any apprehensions you may have; fulfilling fantasies that you have not had the opportunity to satisfy or that you have never dared to talk about. Depending on your experience, perhaps sharing new knowledge with you.

The human aspect is paramount here. It is important that you feel comfortable, especially when we enjoy a moment of intimacy, if that is what you desire. I do not do this job mechanically, nor for lure of profit. I am here to listen to you. Feel free to bring up any topic that is important to you. We are passionate beings, and I find it wonderful to feel that passion in the Other. Whether it flows from their words or in other forms.

Why this slogan: "Your human sextoy"?

I like the image it conveys, while leaving room for imagination. It pretty much sums up the services I offer, depending on how you understand "human" and how human you want it to be. In that regard, I accept a wide spectrum. You want me as a (sexual) object? No problem. Do you want to chat or have me accompany you in private or in public? I am here for that. Why not both? With pleasure, as well as all the nuances in between. Your consideration of me as an object or subject is under your control.

↑ 1. I also recognize myself in a form of non-binarity, hence the long hair for example.